How do you treat yourself on a moment by moment basis? Are you a loving parent to yourself or a brutal circus trainer with a bull-hook? An easy way to reduce stress and create joy is to simply check in throughout the day, asking the question: Am I being good to myself? If the answer is no, make a change! Start by taking a couple of deep breaths and relaxing your body. Take a break! Allow yourself to have a cup of tea and do nothing but stare out the window for 10 minutes. If you work from home, take a nap. If not, allow yourself an hour of “down time” when you get home from the job. Take a yoga class. Take a bubble bath. Spend an hour reading a good book before you cook dinner. Reward yourself frequently. A crossword puzzle after doing the housecleaning. Lunch at your favorite restaurant during a hectic day of Christmas shopping. Give yourself “free time” at the accomplishment of every task. Be kind to you!